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Encouragement for Those Who Are Weary

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Greetings gentle readers,

I ran across an old song I haven’t heard in years that I wanted to share. I loved the song when it first came out in 1979 (for those of you born after that year, there is no need to point out how long ago that was, I was a senior in high school. Trust me, I know how long ago that was. :D ) but it speaks even more strongly to me today. It has been such a struggle to learn about how to handle the inevitable pain of life, in some other way than futilely attempting to avoid it. One of the best lessons taught to me by BN is that while pain is inevitable, the answer to pain is love. (See The relationship of love and pain and Love is the Answer for more detailed explanations of that truth). The love we find by connecting to other people, by sharing our burdens, by holding each other up. That is where we find the strength to face life challenges.

But there are moments for everyone where the pain can feel like too much and too overwhelming to face. For those of us without a secure base in early childhood, it can sometimes feel like pain is an inextricable part of love, or, even worse, all there is. During those moments, we need to be able to hang on to some sense that there is more than pain, that risking pain is worth it, that there is strength in us. Our feelings that tell us to just hold still, and not risk and to hold ourselves back are a Siren song, that leads us only towards death.  The safety it offers is only an illusion and one which holds us in a small cell of our own devising.

The old song I ran across is the perfect reminder of this truth (and SO much more succinct than me on the subject :) ), so I wanted to share it. The song is The Rose by Bette Midler.  The original recording was from the movie “The Rose” which was a remake of “A Star is Born” and was a huge hit. I’ve included that original recording with lyrics in the second link below. The first link is a very powerful rendition of the song performed as a duet by Bette Midler and Wynonna Judd. And just in case this comes across as really sappy, BN is away until August 3rd and our last session on Monday was after a two and a half week break, so I suspect I’m a little emotional right now. :)

Duet with Bette Midler and Wynonna Judd

Original recording by Bette Midler with Lyrics

The Rose

Some say love, it is a river
That drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor
That leads your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger
An endless, aching need
I say love, it is a flower
And you, it’s only seed

It’s the heart afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance
It’s the dream afraid of waking
That never takes the chance
It’s the one who won’t be taken
Who cannot seem to give
And the soul afraid of dying
That never learns to live

When the night has been too lonely
And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
For the lucky, and the strong
Just remember, in the winter
Fare beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love
In the Spring becomes the rose



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